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One question that often comes up for many entrepreneurs whether they are soulpreneurs or not is that of whether or not they should offer free services to friends.
Maybe you are a psychic and your friends are always asking you for free readings. Perhaps you are an energy healer and your friends ask for some extra attention when they are going through a tough time. Should you feel obligated to oblige?
The answer is, it depends. On a host of factors. Here are some things you should consider when making the decision.
How much energy are you using?
If your friend is not a lightworker, they likely have no idea how much energy you use when performing healing or psychic services. They likely think it’s just a little easy thing that you do. They probably think, ‘it’s no big deal.’ But it is a big deal.
Lightworkers expend a lot of energy when working. If you are trying to run a business and seeing clients regularly, you probably know that if you schedule too many appointments on a given day, you could end up feeling like you got hit by a truck. Having to fit in friends on top of that can take you over the edge.
Also, there are times when your energy is particularly low, such as when you are going through an emotionally challenging time. In instances like this, you may literally have no energy to spare for even one more service than you have to give. If you can relate to this feeling, it is best to simply say ‘no.’
Is this a regular request?
One of the most important things to consider is how often this friend is asking you to be of service. It’s one thing for a friend to ask for a favor every once in a while, but another thing entirely if they are asking for a weekly slot on your calendar. I know lightworkers who gift their friends services for their birthdays or other celebrations, but those lightworkers decided they wanted to do that and they made the offer.
When a friend begins to ask for regular services, you may begin to feel used by that person and resentment can grow. Better to stop things from moving forward sooner rather than later. Perhaps you should tell your friend you’ll do the service one last time, but explain that you can’t do it anymore for free because it takes up a lot of energy that you must reserve for your business. (You may offer your friend a discount if you choose. Here is some advice on coming up with how much to charge.)
Or, if there is something your friend can do that you are interested in, perhaps you can suggest that you barter and trade services.
How do you really feel about it?
Perhaps this is the first thing you should consider: the powerful message of your gut. How do you feel when your friend asks you for a free service? Do you feel happy to do it? Do you feel overwhelmed by love and appreciation for your friend? Or do you feel annoyance or taken advantage of?
If you have a negative reaction to the request, don’t try to talk yourself out of it. Instead, pay attention and heed the lesson that your reaction is trying to give you. In this case your spirit isn’t happy about the request.
You may feel like saying no may be detrimental to the relationship, but guess what? Doing something you don’t want to do over and over again will also be detrimental to the relationship. So if there is going to be a problem either way, you may as well do what you want to do and put your needs first.