One of the challenges many lightworkers face is dealing with clients that are draining. Since lightworkers and spiritual healers tend to work with energy and many are empaths, they often find themselves physically affected by clients that are particularly needy.
Energy vampires are often attracted to lightworkers and empaths because they feel better when they are in the presence of someone who has a higher level of energy. Unfortunately for the lightworkers and empaths, their energy can become affected by the presence of an energy vampire if they don’t set proper boundaries.
Sometimes lightworkers find themselves dealing with a client that is more draining than they can take. In such a situation, what should you do? You might feel guilty about turning a client away, but that reasoning may not be in your best interest.
If you are affected in a negative way by a client’s presence, that person has an unhealthy effect on you. You cannot be effective in doing your work if you are not approaching it from a healthy place. If you find yourself cringing whenever a certain client wants to book a service with you, you are doing yourself — and that client — a disservice by continuing with the relationship.
The client deserves to work with a healer that wants to work with him or her. Believe it or not, there is someone for everybody, and there is likely someone out there who would be compatible with this client. The fact that you are experiencing feelings of negativity when you are around this person just indicates that you are not this person.
So how do you break up with a draining client?
Be honest. Tell the client that you don’t think the relationship is working out and you don’t believe you can give him or her what they truly need.
Help them find a replacement. Just because you’re not the healer for them doesn’t mean they can’t get their needs met. Suggest another holistic professional for them to work with (make sure you truly believe this person will get along with the client.) If you can’t suggest another professional off the top of your head, volunteer to ask some of your colleagues if they have any suggestions.
Don’t burn bridges. Be polite but firm when ending a client relationship. Let the person know that your decision is in the best interest of everyone involved. Your goal is to bring light into the world even if you don’t care to shine that light on someone directly.